Category: Life

Excerpts from the BADASS book by Jen Sincero, ” You’re a BADASS.” It is Sincere-oly great! Enjoy!

Go from wanting to change your life to deciding to change your life.  You’ll have to believe in things you can’t see as well as some things that you have full-on proof that are impossible.  You will decide when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. 

As challenging as this may sound, it is nowhere as brutal as waking up in the middle of the night feeling like someone parked a car on your chest, crushed under the realization that your life is zooming by and you have yet to start living it in a way that has any real meaning to you. It’s not your fault that you’re fucked up. It’s your fault if you stay fucked up, but the foundation of your fuckedupedness is something that’s been passed down through generations of your family, like a coat of arms or a killer cornbread recipe.

Our conscious minds comes to us at puberty, and thinks its in control, but it isn’t. Our subconscious mind doesn’t think about anything, but is in control and has been formed from birth. The first key to ridding yourself of limiting subconscious beliefs is to become aware of them. When you are concerned with Source energy and in the flow, you are so much more powerful. The more energy you give to this superpower, the more effortlessly you can manifest the things you want into your life, and do it with such specificity and at such a rapid rate that it makes your hair stand up. Like you’ve figured out how to make my magic wand work.. If loving the Spirit is wrong, I don’t wanna be right. 

You need to raise your frequency to match the vibration of the one you want to tune into. When you’re vibrating at high frequency , awesome things seem to flow to you effortlessly and you seem to stumble over the perfect people and opportunities all the time. As Albert Einstein observed, “ Coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous.” 

When you learn to consciously master the energetic realm, believe in the not yet seen, and stay in your highest frequency, you harness your innate power to create the reality you desire. It’s like we’re surrounded by this big all you can eat buffet of incredible experiences and insights and feelings and opportunities and things and people and ways to share our gifts with the world, and all we have to do is align our energy with what we want and take decisive action to allow this good into our lives. Sadly, we can;t just float around our neighbors pool on a raft with a cup holder, sipping cocktails and being all high frequency while waiting for unicorns to fly down from the sky. This is about your FAITH being greater than your FEAR. 

“ If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future.  If you are at peace you are living in the present.”- Lao Tzu. 

Everything you want already exists. It’s like electricity. It took the invention of the lightbulb to bring it to our attention. We had to understand how to manifest it into our reality. It’s just as easy to believe we are awesome as it is to believe we are giant sucking things. It’s like we’re born with a big bag of money, more than enough to fund any dream of ours, and instead of following our instincts and our hearts, we invest in what other people believe we should invest in. 

There will never be anyone exactly like you. You were given special talents to share with the world. You are the only YOU that will ever be. Write down affirmations about yourself! Post them everywhere. These are the truth, and you are living the lie, Get yourself back to truth.DO not spend your life clinging to the insulting decisions you’ve made about yourself. Instead, make the conscious choice to replace them with new and improved ones. 

Our thoughts become our words, our words become our beliefs, our beliefs become our actions, our actions become our habits, and our habits become our realities. Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life.

Ask yourself WHY. Why are you about to do or say something? Is it to be liked? To put someone down? To get someone back because they made a fat joke about your mother? Or is it coming from a place of strength and truth? Are you doing it because it’ll be fun? Because you feel called to do it? Because it’ll change someone else’s life? Pay attention to your motivations. Practice coming from a place of integrity and you will be victorious. Having a good attitude and being grateful for all the things that are helping you live the life of your dreams will not only make your life a more pleasant place to be, but will also raise your frequency and attract the people and opportunities to you that will take you in the direction you want to go. You have all the answers you need. Tap into what brings you great joy instead of what you think you need to do to survive. If you had an unlimited supply of cash, what would you spend your life doing? 

Try meditating. Meditation: brings us into the present moment, raises our frequency, opens us up to receive unlimited information and ideas, relaxes us, relieves stress, strengthens our intuition and ability to focus, allows us to hear our inner voice more clearly, fills us with light and love, puts us in a good mood, and helps us love ourselves. Meditating is about receiving, not about sending up prayers. 

“Mind is the master power that molds and makes, and Man is Mind. We are the very thinking substance that was used to create us.”- James Allen

You have to change your thinking first, and then the evidence appears.  Our big mistake is that we do it the other way around. We demand to see evidence before we believe it to be true.  This is about radically changing your reality, so the way to go about it is most likely outside of your present awareness. 

“ The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”- Albert Einstein

The results from making vision boards Are freaky-deaky. And super easy. It’s like having a craft day with god. Give it a shot!

“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the experts mind there are few.”-Shunryu Suzuki

The problem is that once we’re older and wiser, many people trade in living fully in their purpose for more “ grown-up” versions of life that range from the merely passable to the full-on sucking. 

Life is r-i-d-i-c-u-l-o-u-s. It so seriously is. We have no idea what we’re doing here spinning around on this globe in the middle of this solar system with who-the-hell-knows what out there beyond it.  When you’re so lost in what you’re doing that you lose all sense of time, you have officially entered the vortex.

When we’re in fear, we hold onto what we’ve got because we don’t trust that there’s more. We pinch of energy, we’re scared to share, and we focus on, and create more of, the very thing we’re hoping to avoid, which is lack. “When you re grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.”- Anthony Robbins  Faith is having the audacity to believe in the not yet seen. Faith allows you to take risks. Faith is the stuff of “ leap and the net will appear.” 

You’ve received awesomeness before, so of course, you can receive it again. This is how gratitude strengthens your faith. And having strong faith is a major key in transforming your life. This when the real magic of mixing faith with gratitude is the High Holy Moly of manifesting.’Being in gratitude for the not yet manifested informs the universe that you know what you desire already exists, and puts you at the right frequency to receive it. 

If you want to stay stuck in the same place and keep getting spanked with the same lessons over and over again, be negative resentful and victimized. If you want to get over your issues and rock your life, be grateful, look for the good and learn. 

We’re totally surrounded by awesome versions of reality, and they’re all just sanding around like a bunch of teenage girls at the prom, waiting for us to ask them to dance. 

Rough seas make better sailors.

You could get run over by the ice cream man tomorrow.

Get rid of your distractions. Go someplace to make calls where you can’t get online. Like a park or your car. or Antarctica. 

I have lived a long life and had many troubles, most of which never happened.- Mark Twain

Once you think “ I can’t”, the Universe is like, “Alright then, no assistance needed here, see you later”

Where’s the fun in waking up at 85 and realizing you couldn’t d=find the time to enjoy yourself? What were you doing that was more important instead? This is not a luxury reserved for people who are richer, smarter, or less bogged down than you are. Don’t tiptoe through life hoping to safely make it to death. 

We give a lot of lip service to the idea that anything is possible, and we all grow up with posters of kittens and baby seals on our walls that say ‘follow you dreams’ on them, but should you actually do something radical, all the flashing lights and sirens go off. 

Is your fear greater than your faith in the unknown? Fear is in the future. It is made up because it hasn’t even happened yet/. Death, going bankrupts, breaking a leg, forgetting our lines, getting yelled at for being late, getting rejected, etc. Most of the time we have no guarantee that what we fear is going to happen. Take death for example: For all we know we leave our bodies and melt into a state of pure love and light and sparkly things and bunnies and unicorns eternal orgasmic giddiness. We can be sure of that as we can about anything else in the future, so why all the drama?

Are you unwilling to make others more uncomfortable than they just made you? Respect yourself, instead of catering to your insecure need to be liked. This is incredibly powerful , because when you love yourself enough to stand in your truth no matter what the cost, everyone benefits. You start attracting the kinds of things, people,, and opportunities, that are in alignment with you you truly are. 

There are plenty of people out there in the world living the kind of life you only dream about living, many of whom are far less fabulous and talented than you are. 

Birthing your dreams is like…giving birth. (See my post “ your Birth is  your business if you want to hear my birth story.) Conceiving the idea is the fun part ( hopefully), then you go through insane amounts of fear and excitement and dreaming and planning and vomiting and growing and thinking you’re crazy and thinking you’re awesome and stretching and shape shifting until you’re practically unrecognizable to everyone, even your own self. Along the way you clean up your puke and massage your back, and apologize to all the people whose heads you ripped off in a hormonal killing spree, but you stay the course because you know this baby of yours is going to be the BOMB. Then, finally when you start to see a light at the end of the tunnel, labor starts. Your inwards twist and strange and force you to stumble around hunched over in the shape of the letter C while you breathe and pray and cursed just when you think it can’t get any more out of your mind painful, a giant baby head squeezes out of a tiny hole in your body. Then a full blown miracle appears. Your faith must be greater than your fear. 

Money- It is not an either or situation. You can make great money and keep integrity and have more fun and make more art and help more people and make a bigger difference in the world. When we say we want more money for something, we often come from a place of  “ I don’t have it, it does not exist, so I need to create it.” This has us focusing on, and believing in, lack, thereby lowering our frequency and attracting more lack. Believe that you can have what you desire, that it really truly exists, and then go out and get it. Once you understand that we live in an abundant universe, you can drop the limiting belief that you serve the world better by not taking too much for yourself or by getting too big. There’s plenty of money to go around, you not letting yourself make it doesn’t save more for the other people just as you making it doesn’t take it away from them. Of course, none of us “ need” more than the basics to survive, but if we’re talking about blossoming into the fullest expression of our best selves in an abundant universe, we do. 

You don’t want to merely survive,  you want to thrive in every area of your life, including the area of financial support.  Being wealthy means having the resources to provide yourself with everything you need, and desire, to share your gifts with the world as your biggest, badassiest self. This means being wealthy psychologically, spiritually, and energetically as well as materially. Feeling like you don’t deserve the things that make you the happiest version of yourself, because it’s greedy or is asking too much, ultimately rips off the rest of the world because you aren’t being fully supported and, as a result, aren’t sharing your highest frequency with the world. One of the best things you can do to improve the world is to improve yourself.

When we want something so badly and are working tirelessly to get it, if we don’t surrender, we end up pushing it away instead. Make your faith in the GOD stronger than your fear of not getting what you want. 

Doubt is resistance, faith is surrender.  Worry is resistance, joy is surrender. Control is resistance, allowing is surrender. Ridicule is resistance, believing is surrender. Energy needs to flow or else it stagnates. Surrendering puts you in the flow.

Nothing is impossible. The word itself says “I’m Possible,”- Audrey Hepburn

When you live your life doing the things that turn you on, that you’re good at, that bring you joy, you walk around so lit up that you shoot sunbeams out of your eyeballs. Which automatically lights up the world around you. Which is precisely why you are here, to shine your big-ass ball of fire onto this world of ours. A World that literally depends on light to survive. 

LOVE YOURSELF- YOU are a BADASS